Attitude is Everything

Robert Neil uarn at MCK-UAII.MCK.NCSU.EDU
Mon Jun 2 05:56:30 MDT 1997

Thought this might be a good message for the new month:

ATTITUDE IS EVERYTHING.........By Francie Baltazar-Schwartz

Jerry was the kind of guy you love to hate. He was always in a good
mood and always had something positive to say. When someone would ask
him how he was doing, he would reply, "If I were any better, I would
be twins!"

He was a unique manager because he had several waiters who had
followed him around from restaurant to restaurant. The reason the
waiters followed Jerry was because of his attitude. He was a natural
motivator. If an employee was having a bad day, Jerry was there
telling the employee how to look on the positive side of the
situation. Seeing this style really made me curious, so one day I went
up to Jerry and asked him, "I don't get it! You can't be a positive
person all of the time. How do you do it?" Jerry replied,

"Each morning I wake up and say to myself, Jerry, you have two choices
today. You can choose to be in a good mood or you can choose to be in
a bad mood.' I choose to be in a good mood. Each time something bad
happens, I can choose to be a victim or I can choose to learn from it.
I choose to learn from it.  Every time someone comes to me
complaining, I can choose to accept their complaining or I can point
out the positive side of life.  I choose the positive side of life."

"Yeah, right, it's not that easy," I protested.

"Yes it is," Jerry said. "Life is all about choices. When you cut away
all the junk, every situation is a choice. You choose how you react to
situations. You choose how people will affect your mood. You choose to
be in a good mood or bad mood. The bottom line: It's your choice how
you live life." I reflected on what Jerry said. Soon thereafter, I
left the restaurant industry to start my own business. We lost touch,
but often thought about him when I made a choice about life instead of
reacting to it. Several years later, I heard that Jerry did something
you are never supposed to do in a restaurant business: he left the
back door open one morning and was held up at gunpoint by three armed
robbers. While trying to open the safe, his hand, shaking from
nervousness, slipped off the combination. The robbers panicked and
shot him. Luckily, Jerry was found relatively quickly and rushed to
the local trauma center. After 18 hours of surgery and weeks of
intensive care, Jerry was released from the hospital with fragments of
the bullets still in his body. I saw Jerry about six months after the
accident. When I asked him how he was, he replied, "If I were any
better, I'd be twins.  Wanna see my scars?"

I declined to see his wounds, but did ask him what had gone through
his mind as the robbery took place. "The first thing that went through
my mind was that I should have locked the back door," Jerry replied.
"Then, as I lay on the floor, I remembered that I had two choices: I
could choose to live, or I could choose to die. I chose to live.

"Weren't you scared? Did you lose consciousness?" I asked. Jerry
continued, "The paramedics were great. They kept telling me I was
going to be fine. But when they wheeled me into the emergency room and
I saw the expressions on the faces of the doctors and nurses, I got
really scared. In their eyes, I read, 'He's a dead man.

" I knew I needed to take action."

"What did you do?" I asked.

"Well, there was a big, burly nurse shouting questions at me," said
Jerry. "She asked if I was allergic to anything. 'Yes,' I replied. The
doctors and nurses stopped working as they waited for my reply. I took
a deep breath and yelled, 'Bullets!' Over their laughter, I told them,
'I am choosing to live. Operate on me as if I am alive, not dead."

Jerry lived thanks to the skill of his doctors, but also because of
his amazing attitude. I learned from him that every day we have the
choice to live fully. Attitude, after all, is everything.

U have 2 choices now:

 1. save and delete this mail from your mail box.
2. forward it to your dear ones and choose

Hope, you will choose choice 2.

Robert Neil
Computing Consultant II
Urban Affairs - NC State University, Box 7401
Raleigh NC 27695   fax: (919) 515-3642
"A candle may light the way in the darkness, but NUCLEAR POWER
 means we can have cold beer while we watch the Superbowl." CS

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